Finally deciding to end your marriage can lead you to focus on your future. Not knowing what is going to happen next can cause a lot of stress, even if you and your spouse have worked out the details of your divorce. You log in to your Facebook account, and post a quick message about how relieved you are that things are finally over. The next thing you know, your uncontested divorce has just turned into an expensive nightmare. Your spouse has hired an attorney and is getting ready to fight.
Attorneys or anyone else, including your spouse, can scour the internet for information about the opposition. According to the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, 81 percent of the attorneys they surveyed have gathered evidence using the internet. Statements about income can cause any support agreements to fall apart. Photos of you at parties could lead to questions about your fitness as a parent. Anything is fair game.
What to do if You are Going Through a Divorce
If you and your spouse are working toward an uncontested divorce, it is best to not postanything online about your situation. One of the first things many lawyers will tell you is to close your account if you have a Facebook or MySpace page. At a very minimum, stop making postings about the divorce. Going through a divorce is difficult enough. There is no need to make things worse.
If a posting causes your ex-spouse to become upset, any child custody or property division agreement you made could dissolve. An uncontested divorce that was peacefully resolved could become an expensive courtroom battle, costing you financially and emotionally. The surest way to prevent this from happening is to simply not write emails or posts about your divorce. Know who has access to your profile, and if security settings change, be sure that you change your profile according to them. Even if you take steps to send only to a select group of friends and family, it is still possible that the information could be read by others.